Even-handedness: A Kinder, Gentler Way to Attack Israel

I just finished reading an incredible book.

Why Marriages Succeed or Fail by John Gottman, Ph.D.

The book is the result of 20 years of scientific study into what makes marriage last. After studying more than 2000 couples, he has discovered some very interesting bits of information.

Some of it is common sense. Some of it is a sense that is less common.

Here’s a bit of that less common sense. Dr. Gottman discovered an equation that directly impacts on the survivability of a marriage. I’ll let him describe it in his own words:

“That magic ratio is 5 to 1. In other words, as long as there is five times as much positive feeling and interaction between husband and wife as there is negative, we found the marriage was likely to be stable. It was based on this ratio that we were able to predict whether couples were likely to divorce: in very unhappy couples, there tended to be more negative than positive interaction.”

Think about this for a moment. If your marriage doesn’t have five positive interactions for every negative interaction – your marriage is headed for trouble.

What does this have to do with Israel?

The world likes to describe their relationship with Israel as ‘even handed’. In fact, when you listen to them, you can almost hear the calculation. They say something positive, so now they get to say what they really want to say: something negative.

It galls them to be positive towards Israel.

On the stage of public opinion, even-handedness is just a kindler, gentler way to attack Israel.